Regarding Lent, it is good to go to the Holy Spirit and ask Him for self-knowledge. What does He wish us to work on? One good approach is the traditional approach of three things:
Prayer, Penance, and Charity.
The main overall approach to these three things is to find concrete and small things that will help you convert and change for example, “Holy Spirit, what do I need to improve? Give me self-knowledge and help me to work on my dominant defect (e.g., being too anxious, unforgiving, judging others, impatient, etc.).
Traps: The traps are to make:
- too many resolutions and thus not do any of them.
- to go for big penances which many not really mortify us and may even cause pride in what we are doing, for example, major fasting instead of giving up coffee or dessert.
- to not have concrete resolutions and instead be too general, e.g., I will be charitable. It is better to try and be specific, e.g., “I will try to be present to the person with whom I am talking,” “I will not avoid persons I do not like,” or “Today I will be more attentive in the office to those who want my time.”
Order: One of the best things is to work on Order in one’s life because of its crucial and fundamental importance for the spiritual life, and because you can’t sanctify your work without order. This may mean:
- keeping or getting back to a basic schedule to assist you in completing what you should each day.
- doing one thing well rather than doing many things.
- being present to one’s work or duty instead of choosing to do things you would rather do.
- keeping my home and office tidy.
- not procrastinating, not wasting time, not leaving things for later, etc.
Prayer: Two very good things to work on concern not adding additional prayers, but aiming for quality of prayer:
- praying to God with your heart instead of just with your mind.
- praying with affection, with love for Jesus. Prayer is dialogue, talking with Him.
- seriously trying to be present to God and fighting distractions. Trying to connect with God contemplatively, to encounter Christ deep in the silence of our hearts rather than just mouthing our prayers, e.g., to focus on being “totally present” throughout the Mass, to contemplate the mysteries of the Rosary and not just say the Hail Marys.
“Dust thou art, and into dust thou shalt return.” Gn. 3:19
Rend your hearts, not your garments, and return to the Lord, your God. (Joel 2:13)
Lent begins on Ash Wednesday, which is the day on which the faithful have their foreheads signed with ashes in the form of a Cross. It is also a day of fast and abstinence.
Why and when did the Church begin this practice of signing our foreheads with ashes in the form of a Cross?
The liturgical use of ashes originated in the Old Testament times. Ashes symbolized mourning, mortality and penance. In the Book of Esther, Mordecai
put on sackcloth and ashes when he heard of the decree of King Ahasuerus to kill all of the Jewish people in the Persian Empire (Esther 4:1). Job repented in sackcloth and ashes (Job 42:6). Prophesying the Babylonian captivity of Jerusalem, Daniel wrote, “I turned to the Lord God, pleading in earnest prayer, with fasting, sackcloth, and ashes” (Daniel 9:3).
Jesus made reference to ashes, “If the miracles worked in you had taken place in Tyre and Sidon, they would have reformed in sackcloth and ashes long ago” (Matthew 11:21).
In the Middle Ages, the priest would bless the dying person with holy water, saying, “Remember that thou art dust and to dust thou shalt return.” The Church adapted the use of ashes to mark the beginning of the penitential season of Lent, when we remember our mortality and mourn for our sins. In our present liturgy for Ash Wednesday, we use ashes made from the burned palm branches distributed on the Palm Sunday of the previous year. The priest blesses the ashes and imposes them on the foreheads of the faithful, making the sign of the cross and saying, “Remember, man you are dust and to dust you shall return,” or “Turn away from sin and be faithful to the Gospel.” As we begin this holy season of Lent in preparation for Easter, we must remember the significance of the ashes we have received: We mourn and do penance for our sins. We again convert our hearts to the Lord, who suffered, died, and rose for our salvation. We renew the promises made at our baptism, when we died to an old life and rose to a new life with Christ. Finally, mindful that the kingdom of this world passes away, we strive to live the kingdom of God now and look forward to its fulfillment in heaven.