I wanted to Thank You and Everyone in our Parish Family for all of your support and kindness.
Thank you as well to those who came to the dinner. As you know – Laura made ‘pup-cakes’ for Leo; it was so special.
We had all of Leo’s friends from Zooland and Montessori laughing as Laura and I told them all of the stories and funny things he did. AND here’s the best part – I’ve always wanted to write my own children’s story; so I’m going to try to do one for Leo.
“The Clown that Should be King”
If I was Prince William I would dress up like a clown when I became King and become a clown dictator ordering everyone around and say things like:
“You must do everything I say; but only if you want to…”
“You will eat your chocolate cake and you will like it! Or I will make you have Ice Cream too!”
“What kind of bumbling fool would do such a thing; make sure he does it again – that was hilarious”
For the last 3 days poor Laura and I have been going nuts trying to get ‘everything’ done in time – so whenever she was panicking and freaking out I would say, “LAURA! We have to follow the plan; can we please just stick to the plan?”
Otherwise, she would start crying and say things like, “But Dad! We can’t do that now, because we have to go to Longo’s first to get the Cake Mix and Icing before you take me home to get the muffin pans and… and… and…”
“Ok, Laura,” I would say, “you’re right, we will just have to change the plan… or I guess we need a new plan…”
And then who ever happened to be with us, Laura’s God Mother or a friend or neighbour or even my mother would ask, “Why didn’t you just tell me you were going to do that now? I didn’t know that you made up a plan, we could have met you there, before you and… and… and…”
Then at just the right moment I would say, “Because there is no plan!” Then Laura and I would burst out laughing every time because what people didn’t know was that I had told Laura that it was going to be impossible to plan anything and that we would just have to try very, very hard to get it all done, that included her ‘Pup Cakes’.
The amazing thing was that we were able to get everything done and more to make it special for Leo! Everything was perfect and went exactly the way we knew it would and had planned it, all along 😉
At the dinner reception I told many the story about Laura and our secret ‘plan’ – and then added this to the story about the ‘Clown that should be King’:
The Clown King demands to know who has the plan?
“Which plan, the new plan or the old plan?”
Oh foolish Clown and King of Plans, I guess you will have to change the plan.
“But it’s not my plan you fools, I’m a Clown King, not the real thing!” he protested. “I don’t make plans! You must make the plans and you must follow them; so I can change them before you can make them. That’s my plan and I’m sticking to it!”
“Oh great preposterous King of Clowns – There is NO PLAN! We never make plans, because that’s how we plan everything.”
We all had a good laugh! And cried a little too.
Thank you Chris and Matthews family for sharing your life and your faith with us. Your examples of faith and trust in God have been truly an inspiration for us all…
I once saw a giant billboard in the US that said,
“If you ever want to make God laugh, tell Him your plans.”
It is true. We make plans, but God has the final say. We cannot always see what God is trying to do with, or in our lives, but let us place our trust in Him knowing that in His infinite wisdom, God does know what He is doing, and one day, we too shall know and understand.
It is with the deepest sorrow that we must be the bearers of such sad news. Leonardo James Matthews, a precious preschooler, son of Chris and Ana-Paula, Laura’s baby brother, was taken from us, taken much too soon…
Death is an unwelcome visitor, but it always comes. It never misses its appointments. And when it comes knocking on our door, we can’t simply ignore it; we must face it. Death not only comes like a thief, but it is a thief – it steals from us everybody and everything that matters to us in this life. But does death mean the end? Isn’t there anything after death? Isn’t there more to life than our present life on earth?
In the gospel of John, Jesus assured Martha when she was confronted with the death of her brother Lazarus, “I am the Resurrection and the Life; he who believes in me, even though he dies, will live.” These consoling words of Christ ring true, and they offer us hope, comfort and assurance that there is more to life than our life on earth; there is a world beyond this world.
Pope Emeritus Benedict XVI observed, “Death represents a wall, as it were, which prevents us from seeing beyond it; yet our hearts reach out beyond this wall and even though we cannot understand what it conceals, we nevertheless think about it and imagine it, expressing with symbols our desire for eternity.” Yes, we desire eternity. We would like to have an uninterrupted life of eternal happiness here on earth, but unfortunately, that’s not how it works. We must all experience the reality of death in order to enter the eternal life God has prepared for us.
A few years ago I was driving a long distance andI took a short break to fill the gas tank and stretch my legs. Just then I spotted a tiny plant in the ground. What was so unusual about this was that the tiny and fragile plant was growing out of asphalt. I remember thinking, “How could a tiny and fragile thing grow by breaking through something much stronger than itself?” But if you think about it, it actually wasn’t the plant but the power of life that broke through the asphalt. Life cannot be buried alive and remain buried, because life is stronger than death. By dying on the cross for us, Jesus conquered sin and death and opened the gates of heaven for us. Life is stronger than death! We do not have to be buried under the weight of our sins, because Christ took our sins onto Himself. He took away our sins! So, even if we die, we will live, and we will not only live, but we will live with God and like God, eternally.
Though we are separated from our loved ones in this life, we are comforted by the fact that this is only a temporary separation. Leo, like all the faithful departed marked with the sign of our faith, is in the hands of our Loving God, Who loves us, Who wants to be with us at all costs!
The Vigil will be held at the Colaricci Daudlin Tauro Funeral Home located at 211 McNaughton Rd E, in Maple, on Friday, January 20th between 2:00 – 4:00 p.m. and 7:00 – 9:00 p.m.
The Funeral Mass will be at St. David’s Parish, 2601 Major MacKenzie Dr W, at 10:00 a.m.
We ask that you please keep the Matthews Family in your prayers during this most difficult time.